Friends, drinks and good food.  This is a combination that works when your heart, spirit and your soul is in a place you don't recognize anymore or when your heart, spirit and soul are in tune with each other. It works both ways. Since I can remember it's always been a tradition for women to gather together when there is a birthday, a baby on the way, a promotion or when there is anger, frustration, heartache or pain, call it bonding or sisterhood if you will.  A group of us gather tonight to celebrate a friends birthday, by the way Happy Birthday again Tiff or as Tonya would say...T-Fannie.  We had a good time and it's wonderful that we can come together like that.  It's times like those that I treasure the most.

However, there are times when some of (speaking of women as a species in general) don't come together in positive ways and it's sad how negativity can be such a powerful force we use at the drop of a dime without thought of how it will affect our sistahs.

It's amazing how much we tear each other down and give no thought to using one another like it doesn't even matter.  When will some of us realize that tomorrow is not promised and what you do today will affect what happens tomorrow.  You have to wake up and live with what you've done or failed to do.

We need to lift up each other and stop trying to figure how we can use our fellow sistahs for what they have (cause let's face it some of our sistahs will suck the life out of you or drain you dry). Rather, we need to figure out how we can use our resources together to help one another accomplish great things or just accomplish something they set out to do.  Even if it's just to get out of the bed in the morning when they don't feel like facing reality, or just saying no to that second piece of cake or walking the first mile to loose that extra weight or study for that final exam to get the degree they been working toward for the last four years.

Stop victimizing each other, don't you think we have enough people doing that already.  It's time for us to form sistah circles again, sistahs we are powerful, we know it and it's time we let them know it again.  Together we can be unbreakeable.